I Am Pretty, Successful, Smart And Alone. Why?

Posted on June 23rd, 2010 by admin in Tips For Women | No Comments »

“I’m looking for a man, but I can’t seem to attract the men that I like. It seems to me that all the good men are already in a relationship, or they don’t like me. I’m probably not good at seduction, because I can’t manage to win the men that I want. True, men are always around me, but I’m not interested in the men that I attract.

How do I seduce the right man?

Maybe I’m just too smart for most of them?! I don’t look bad. They say I’m cute and pretty, but sometimes my looks have the opposite effect as they don’t expect me to have a strong personality as well.”

This way of thinking is typical for all modern women. All of them have more or less identical problems. They are pretty, fun and successful, but men they like get snatched up by women who are nowhere near as good as them. What’s the problem?

The most important thing is to look at intelligence, appearance or performance as barriers. Those can only be advantages. Use your features to attract men, use your intelligence to be interesting, and use your success to tell amusing anecdotes from your life.

This type of woman is constantly faced with the challenge of how to find the man who will fall in love with the “real” her, not what they see at first sight. These women deliberately don’t talk about their work or themselves so that men would not think that she is showing off. These women pay less attention to their appearance so that men don’t fall only for her looks. Thus, these women become very boring, because they have forgotten that their appearance, their intelligence and their work are part of them, not something separate.

The problem may be the fact that these women convince themselves that they can not entice a man they like so they subconsciously look for signals that will verify their failure. They think that men are not interested in them, so their attitude turns to: “I don’t need you”. In reality, they probably attract these men but they just don’t realize it until it’s too late. The men give up because of her lack of interest and find other, more approachable women.

An interesting reason why women reject seduction is “if I don’t try, he can’t hurt me”, but they forget that they can not succeed if they think like this. No man will think the worst of you if you show him you like him.

In addition, you may have convinced yourself that seduction does not make sense. Perhaps it is opposite to the image you create of yourself and think “I will not lower myself to that level.” But seduction is not a test of your intelligence or feminism. This is simply how you tell someone “I think you’re interesting.”

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