Are You Too Nice For Your Own Good?
Posted on November 11th, 2008 by admin Tags: SMS, too nice
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We were always told as kids that niceness is a virtue and that nice guys don’t really finish last. Being considerate, generous, kind and caring were all considered good characteristics of a boy growing up – that’s at least what our parents tried to instill in us for the most part.
In general, that is sound advice. Politeness, generosity, kindness and consideration will get you in the right places in life but sometimes you can just be too nice – especially in relationships with women.
Women appreciate gentleness and consideration but most of them do not think much of spinelessness and pushovers. Most women want you to take charge, figuratively speaking, and not show too many signs of weakness. The following points can help you decide whether you are a pushover in your relationships.
Are you too respectful?
Women are our equals in every respect and certainly deserve our respect. However, as said earlier, there are areas of our lives where women simply want us to take the “game by the scruff of the neck” so to speak and get down to business – I am talking about sex in particular.
Are you being too respectful between the sheets to the point of embarrassment? Most women want assertiveness, spontaneity and excitement in bed. Sure, you can ask her what she is into before hand, but once you get into bed, take action – show what you are made of.
Are you are too accommodating?
Are you tending to her every whim? Most women love attention but there is a limit to everything. If she sees that she can push you around and get you to do her errands, she will lose complete respect for you.
There is a difference between being caring and helpful and being a complete pushover. Which one are you?
Do you pay her too much attention?
Do you constantly ring or SMS her to ask where she is? Do you shower her with gifts on random occasions for no particular reason?
Sure, being concerned about her safety is one thing, but being concerned to the point of ignoring your own responsibilities and interests is too nice – and borderline obsessive.
Spontaneous gifts can be very exciting and rewarding – but spontaneous gifts all the time can easily turn into desperate cries for attention – is that what you are aiming for?
Do you give her too much room to maneuver?
Do you allow her to changes or call dates off on you at her whim without any consequences? Do you not raise an eyebrow over her going on a date with another guy while she is at a more serious stage of a relationship with you?
Once again, being logical and polite is one thing, being too nice is another. She might even take your nonchalance as a sign of disinterest and leave you.
Do you overdo the compliments?
Women like compliments but if you compliment her 10 times a day you will just seem dishonest – the compliments will lose all meaning. Complimenting too much is another sign of being too nice.
Are you a cry baby?
We know from romantic movies – usually forced upon us by our girlfriends or wives – that women want a steely man that is still not afraid to shed a tear or two.
That said, women certainly don’t want a cry baby. If you go and start crying after every sad movie you see, you are certain to come across as too nice – and probably get the boot.
Having read the above points, what’s the verdict? Are you too nice for your own good? If so, perhaps it’s time you change things around and improve your self-respect. In turn, you will get more respect from her.
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