10 Dating Mistakes Men Make

Here are 10 dating mistakes a lot of men make that ultimately make them fail with women over and over again. Each mistake is followed by tips on how you can avoid making the mistake which will lead you to better dating experiences.

Being too much of a “nice guy” is just not good!

Have you ever noticed that really hot women are rarely with “nice” guys? I certainly have and it’s definitely not a coincidence. There is something about women and the primal instinct that attracts them to the alpha male – the leader of the pack – and “nice guys” are rarely alpha males.

So many women always date “jerks” and “bullies” – a fact that’s quite frustrating for us ordinary guys.

Why are women attracted to these types of guys?

It’s actually very simple…

Women don’t choose their partner based on criteria where being “nice” is top of the list – they choose their partner as a result of a primal attraction. Their hormones are stirred by a man’s “manliness” – his ability to protect and provide (all judged on a subconscious level obviously).

Simply put, being nice does not make women choose you.

The sooner you realize this and the sooner you act on this realization – the better.

Don’t be so pushy!

What do guys do when a woman they really like is not interested? They push and plead and try really hard to convince her to change her mind.

This is a bad idea that will never work!

If the woman does not feel attracted to you from the start, nothing you do or say will change her mind – there is simply no chemistry on her end.

Get over it and move on!

Not showing initiative

Believe it or not, most women don’t like to lead. A lot of guys make the mistake of allowing the women to lead and take the initiative. Except for the rare cases, women want you to take the initiative in a relationship.

Don’t get me wrong, this does NOT mean you should treat your woman bad or with disrespect, it just means that in many instances – including during sex – women want you to take the lead and show initiative.

Stop asking for permission and approval when doing everything (but obviously, always keep in mind that NO MEANS NO).

Stop trying to bribe her

Showering your date with gifts and affection too early and too often can have the opposite effect to what you intended.

A lot of women might see this as an attempt to manipulate your way into a relationship as your message might be misinterpreted:

“I only bought you this expensive perfume because I want to get into your pants faster”.

Sharing your feelings too early

Women get hit on all the time. They also go out on a lot of dates and get a lot of attention from men.

Contrary to the experiences of most men, women are approached by men at least a few times every day – they are tired of the same things being said to them all the time.

Don’t do it. Don’t tell her how much you like her on the first date. Play it cool. Relax. She wants a challenge. Knowing that you like her so much puts you in the pool with all the other guys.

Not understanding what women want

When a man sees a beautiful woman, he gets attracted to her sexually immediately.

Things are not so simple with women. Think about how many beautiful women you see with average looking guys!

Women are attracted to more than just good looks and muscles. Women look for body language, confidence, charm, attitude and obviously chemistry when choosing a partner.

A woman is attracted to the way a man makes her feel, not just the way a man looks. Think about that.

Letting the woman have the upper hand

I mentioned earlier how women want you to take the initiative.

Well, another mistake is to let your woman have all the power in a relationship – and thinking that this will somehow benefit you.

On the contrary, giving all the power to your woman will ultimately cost you the relationship. A woman will never respect you if she can walk all over you. She does not want a pushover.

Remember, she wants the alpha male, not the nice guy!

Lacking confidence

A lot of guys let their lack of confidence show, especially when on a date with a very attractive woman.

Although this lack of confidence can be seen as cute initially, every woman will get tired of it as women don’t think like men.

Where as men are more concerned with the present, women think way ahead and plan everything.

A woman does not want a pushover or a wuss and a lack of confidence usually means one or the aforementioned other.

Be confident and manly without being arrogant. Be proud of who you are while respecting others.

“Settling”

Some guys simply think that they can do no better so they settle for a woman that is not that attractive to them.

This is a big mistake and is not fair to the woman in question or yourself.

Do not settle for the ordinary!

Bottling it all up inside

This is probably one of the biggest mistakes men make. Some men simply bottle all the bad feelings and lack of confidence up inside and never succeed at meeting women.

If you are not the best at dating and meeting women, do something about it.

If you lack confidence, work on that. Talk to someone you can trust – a friend or relative, visit a psychologist or join a workshop – there are ways you can improve your self-confidence.

If you are not happy with your looks, work on them too. Join a gym and improve your diet.

Women are human beings and as such they have the same fundamental need of finding a partner as men. They approach the matter of satisfying this need in a different way to men and understanding these differences is a key to success with dating and relationships.