How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work?

Posted on December 2nd, 2008 by admin Tags: long distance relationship
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If you’re in a long distance relationship you are probably aware of the frustrations that go along with using the phone and internet as the only means of communication. If you have never experienced long distance relationship, you probably don’t believe that long distance love can work.

We all know how hard it is to make local relationships work, but having miles, countries, continents and sometimes even an ocean between you makes things even harder. Here are some tips to give your long distance relationship every chance to survive and thrive!

Keep in touch in some way every day

It’s very important for you to realize that communication is vital in a long distance relationship. Communication every day will help you to establish and maintain an emotional connection. They don’t necessarily have to be long conversations. Use an instant messenger for real time chat, or web cams for that visual connection. You can always write an email to your significant other. Send each other spontaneous e-cards or buy a game that you both can play over the internet. You can write love letters or send flowers or gifts spontaneously. Try to be creative! Keep in mind that in these situations, quantity is as important as quality.

What are you looking to get out of the relationship?

Make sure you are both clear of the parameters of the relationship. Ask the important questions such as how serious the relationship is? Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship becomes more serious? What do you want to get out of the relationship? These questions can be difficult and awkward to ask, but will save you a great deal of misunderstanding down the line.

The benefits of a long distance relationship

Make sure you take advantages of a long distance relationship offers: it gives you a chance to maintain your individuality, more time with your family and friends, no arguments over the remote control and most importantly, the thrilling thought of seeing your significant other again after a long absence.

Find creative ways to bond

If there is a book you’re both interested in reading, read it individually and then call each other afterward and discuss it. Set your alarm to go off at the same time very day. If there is a movie you’re both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other and talk about it. Make note of the things your partner enjoys to do like hobbies activities so that you have more to do when you see them next. For example, if your partner likes to ice skate, find the location of an ice rink in the vicinity of your next meeting place. If you don’t know how to ice skate, take lessons and you will definitely impress your partner by your willingness to make an effort on their behalf. Don’t be bold and boring try to be fun and creative!

Don’t be controlling

One of the most common mistakes people make in a local or a long distance relationship is pressuring their partner by trying to control or manipulate them and not giving them enough space. It’s very important for you to trust each other completely if you want the relationship to work.

Avoid jealousy

If you are the jealous type you should try to control your emotions. Acting jealous in a relationship will increase tensions, cause disagreements and ultimately lead to a breakup. Don’t interrogate your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with friends you haven’t met.

Be optimistic

It’s very important to stay positive and not focus on the negative aspects of a long distance relationship. Use the free time to pursue your interests and hobbies as well as accomplish your career objectives. Long distance relationship can be a positive influence in your life by pushing both of you to be more creative and communicative.

Keep in mind that every relationship takes hard work and dedication to succeed. By building a relationship on strong foundations of trust, understanding and determination you will be well set to succeed. If you and your loved one are willing to make an effort and deal with the bumps and turns that you may face in a long distance relationship, there is no reason why you can’t make such a relationship work.

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